My Story
As a kid, my only professional goal was to just were a white lab coat. Seriously!
Other kids wanted to grow up and be soccer players, doctors, engineers & pop stars. All I wanted was a job that will make me look sophisticated and solve problems. People with white lab coats seemed to have all the answers when they came out of their lab.
It didn’t matter, what kind of a job, I had to do as long as it had a white lab coat
Outside of my quest to solve the world’s problems in a white lab coat, l spent my younger years exploring relationships, trying to be seen - through fights, people pleasing, and being the cool kid. Oh, by the way I could dance! When I danced, it drew people into my world, closer & closer but there was no substance in the relationships.
The turning point
After the divorce of my parents my desire to change the world in a white lab coat didn’t fit into solving relationship problems. The lab coat superpower didn’t manifest to heal the pain that l felt from that broken relationship. I realized I needed to find another way to help bring ease to heart ache’s and unfullfiling relationships.
I’ve been the cool kid, the dance floor master, the brokenhearted guy, the preacher, the poet, the organizational bigot (loyal) and that was the biggest of my disappointments, I got fired without cause (whatever that mean’t). It was a shattered relationship, a time of confusion and feeling lost. That was a turning point
From brokenness , it was then that I realized, to live life fully I had to become me.
The switch
l have seen a lot of dullness and pain in the world, struggling relationships, the hard workers don’t always succeed, kindness is weakness to be exploited, and most people don’t know why they are stuck, and most people carry trauma in their bodies, which holds them back from being authentic. Everyone wants more in their life, but not everyone knows where to begin.
I’ve always wanted a way to make a difference in relationships in a way that was authentically me.
so I got professional training …
I got trained as a Marriage & Family Therapist, l specialized further and became an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, as if that was not enough, l invested further in training as a couples therapist.
As if that was the last of it… I realized trauma is everywhere so I spent another 3 years of indepth somatic trauma practitioner training to work with complex trauma. All this became the closest alternative to wearing a white lab coat and coming up with solutions for peoples relationship problems.
And now almost at the finish line of a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology, I can honestly say being human and empathetic is the super power that has gotten me closer towards holding space for people’s vulnabilities, pain and to give hope.
Truly with this superpower I can help people understand they are not alone. I can help those who feel unseen, unwanted, & unlovable feel that their story matters. their pain matters. And that better intimacy and healing is possible.